What I offer
Couple and relationship counselling
I am a qualified counsellor in the Trinity/Leith area of Edinburgh, with many years’ experience. I offer a safe, confidential service to individuals suffering from all forms of emotional distress and couples with relationship problems. Being heard, understood and supported can be all that people need to cope better, with whatever is troubling them. My aim is to facilitate change.
My role is to help people make sense of what is happening to them, individually and in their relationships, through the counsellor-client relationship, where people can feel safe to tell their story and be understood. I offer a space where people feel valued and my work is carefully suited to each individual. My one-to-one client work is mainly Person-Centred, while I work with couples in the Integrative way, collaborating at all times with my clients on their needs.
Training, Qualifications & Experience
I have a Post-Graduate Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling. I am about to complete a specialist course in Integrative Couple Counselling, involving extensive training.
I am a member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) and fully subscribe to their Code of Ethics.
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WHAT I OFFER
WHY GO FOR COUNSELLING?
At some point in our lives we all need a helping hand. It is not everyone’s first inclination to turn to another for help, but it can often be easier to talk things over with a professionally trained counsellor, who can hear you without judgement and in confidence.
Are you feeling anxious, depressed, isolated, in need of someone to talk to?
Are sadness and anger pushing you towards self-harm, or into excessive use of drugs or alcohol, to get free of your inner pain?
Is this behaviour having a negative impact on your relationships, your work?
Are you a carer who feels trapped, cut off from other people, with no chance to look after your own needs?
Are you simply feeling bogged-down in life and eager to rise up out of it and discover a new and better self-esteem?
Is your partner-relationship supporting your needs or making life more difficult and upsetting?
Whatever is troubling you, please feel free to get in contact with me.
Personal therapy aims to help people feel better about whatever personal difficulties and problems are making life difficult. The counsellor-client relationship is designed to encourage people to talk openly and confidentially without judgement, while trust and the ability to grow and change, develop in the client.
Couple counselling is for couples whose relationship is in distress, for whatever reason. The counselling focuses on their relationship and on what is going wrong, with the aim of fixing it. Since the work is collaborative, between the couple and the counsellor, this in itself can have the couple pulling together in a way they may not have, for some time. Effective relationship counselling changes the dynamics of a relationship, placing it on a new footing which helps the couple towards a better future.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger Management
- Couples Counselling
- Eating Disorders
- Low Self-Confidence
- Low Self-Esteem
- Relationship Issues
- Work Related Issues
- Humanistic Therapies – Person Centred
- Other Therapies - Integrative
No matter who you are, or what your life experiences have been, you will almost certainly feel anxious at first, when counselling begins. Even though this may not be your first experience of counselling, still anxiety will arise. This is so because it is one form of anxiety, or another, which has found you seeking counselling. Don’t be put off: the counsellor understands your feelings and I will help you work with this and your other anxieties.
Common concerns are:
- What is it OK to talk about
- How can counselling help
- What is “normal”
- How much will it cost
- How long will it take
What is it OK to talk about?
It is OK to talk about anything that is upsetting you. The reasons people come for support range from addiction, through bullying, childhood sexual abuse, bereavement, post-traumatic stress, panic attacks and depression, to whatever. The list is very long and my training and experience covers them all.
How can counselling help ?
Counselling helps by allowing for the client to be listened to, heard, feel believed, valued, understood and accepted. With this process comes trust, built between the client and counsellor, based on confidentiality and respect. Through this come client healing and the chance to grow and change.
What is “normal?
Your experience and your feelings about that experience are normal, because they are yours and have arisen out of a situation, or event, which overwhelmed you and left you needing support to put it behind you and move on. Although your life experience is unique to you, you share the need for support, at some time in your life, with everyone, whether or not they look to counselling to find it.
How much will it cost?
I charge £35.00 per session, with concessions for people who can’t afford the full fee.
How long will it take ?
Any agreement for treatment will be open to cancellation any time the client, or couple, decide. This can happen when people feel that they have done enough work to change their lives forever, or for the moment, depending on their original goals. Some people, couples especially, can begin counselling with the intention of changing one thing and discover that, in fact, they wish to change another or a number of other things, as well. In short, there is no simple answer to how long the client process towards health will take, but a lot depends on the client and the level of their commitment to change.
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COUPLE & RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING
Common concerns are:
- Is this a problem other people take to counselling
- Only one of you us wants counselling support
- Is counselling going to help
- Can we afford it
- How long will it take
Is this a problem other people take to counselling ?
Couples come for counselling for a wide range of reasons, at first, most commonly described as continual rowing. Counselling’s first task is to find out what lies behind, or beneath, these rows and the reasons can be single or complex: communication difficulties, sexual problems or issues with intimacy, difficulties with each other's behaviour, infidelity, dealing with the trauma of a break-up, separation or divorce, financial problems, children, other family members, juggling the demands of work & family life, dealing with the demands of a close relationship, while valuing your individuality/freedom and whatever else.
Only one of us wants counselling support.
Both people in the relationship do not always believe that the answer to their difficulties, or distress, lies in counselling. Of course, it is always preferable that everyone should be “on board” when counselling is approached; however, it is a major part of a counsellor’s work to build the trust required for a couple to be pulling together, so a reluctance on the part of one would rarely be seen as an impossible barrier to progress.
Is counselling going to help ?
Couples & Relationship Counselling is designed to give you and your partner a chance to understand and explore the difficulties you are having and to look for ways to improve your relationship, so that your aims can be achieved. These aims may not include staying in the relationship, but finding the means to part, with the least damage to both, or children who are involved . If staying together is your shared aim, whether you are married, living together or in a same-sex relationship, then I will work with you both at reducing your relationship difficulties so that the necessary changes in your relationship can occur and you can look to sharing a calmer and more fulfilling future.
Can we afford it and how long will it take?
Couple counselling rates are £40 per session, with concessions available in some circumstances. Couples work can take less time than one-to-one counselling because it is more directive, offering advice, exercises and shared tasks for communicating better, which the couple can practice, between sessions. It is a practical approach and focuses less on people’s inner workings, than individual counselling usually does.
If it sounds like individual or couple counselling work is for you, then please feel free to contact me by phone or email to arrange a first free session when we can decide if we think we can work together.
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My fees are £35.00 per session (50 mins). The couple rate is £40.00.
Concessions may be available for people with limited financial means.
I offer counselling on weekdays, during and after working hours. I offer counselling to individual clients and couples.
I offer an introductory session, free of charge. During this, we will discuss your concerns and look into whether counselling and psychotherapy is the best route for you.
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